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Speaking Fears: Safe Way To Stay Small

Tuesday, January 26th, 2010

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If you have a fear of speaking up, you’re not alone. Studies show that 85% of people are more afraid of public speaking than they are of death. Wow! That’s a big fear. So you’re a pretty typical person if the thought of speaking makes you anxious.

However, the consequences for you if you’re not speaking up are NOT typical. You’re a business owner. You need to be heard. You need to get the word out calmly and clearly about what you do.

Staying Small

hidingA decision to resign yourself to speaking fears is a choice to stay small in your business. It’s that simple. And it’s socially acceptable to have performance anxiety, so it can be an easy way to hide. I know because I’ve done it myself. Yes – it’s embarassing, but true.

While coaching other people to speak up so they could expand their businesses, I found lots of reasons to avoid doing some things because of my own fears. On the surface, they looked like performance fears. But digging a little deeper, I uncovered the truth.

My real fear was about what could happen if I expanded my business. As long as I didn’t address the speaking fears, I didn’t have to know that, did I? It was a safe way to stay small.

What Are You Missing Out On?

Are you doing the same thing? If you’ve decided this fear is locked in your DNA so you’re not going to address your anxieties about speaking, here are some of the business opportunities you’re passing up:

  • doing group coaching
  • creating videos
  • creating audios
  • making radio appearances
  • doing teleseminars
  • presenting from the stage
  • giving free and paid talks
  • effectively networking
  • being taken seriously by other professionals
  • speaking calmly to those with more authority or visibility

Take A Closer Look

Do yourself a favor and take a peek behind that fear of speaking. Is it just a reason you’re giving yourself to avoid a bigger fear? Maybe some version of a fear of success? Of being overwhelmed with too much work? Of not being able to maintain a high level of production? Something else?

It’s not always pretty, but the truth really will set you free. Now you have a solid, specific place to start from. There are solutions to all these concerns.

Sometimes, just dealing with your core fear will make your speaking discomfort disappear! It was just an illusion after all – a camouflage for something else. And sometimes you need some outside help with those speaking fears so you can jump on all those business opportunities. If I can help you with that, contact me and let me know.

Business Networking: Top 5 Complaints & How To Get Over Them

Thursday, January 14th, 2010

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Business networking. Aaarrrggghhhh….. I can just hear the groans. My colleagues and clients alike give so many reasons why they don’t want to participate in networking events.

But you can’t operate a business successfully in a vacuum. And it’s pretty darn lonesome if that’s what you’re trying to do. Business networking is critical for building your community – not just of clients, but of resources and colleagues for you.

See if any of these objections sound like you. Then check out the suggestions to overcome them so you can turn networking into something positive for yourself and your business.

  1. It takes too much time. It’s not worth it.
    A solution is to be choosy about the events you do attend. Make sure there are people attending that you want to meet. And maximize your travel time. Go with a mastermind buddy and strategize during your ride. Or listen to educational or inspirational recordings on your iPod. Load it with those freebie downloads you never get around to hearing.
  2. I don’t have the perfect elevator speech.
    Actually, your words are responsible for only 7% of message. The other 93% of your message is conveyed through your facial expression, body language and vocal tone. So keep working on that speech, but don’t worry so much about it. Relax and try your latest version and watch the response you get. Notice THEIR body language. Try something different with the next person and see how that goes. Have some fun with it!
  3. It’s boring with bad food – a waste of time.
    Make your own excitement. It’s really all about attitude. You can spark up the whole room if you want to. What are you going to BRING to the event? Focus on that rather than what you’re going to take away. And who cares about the quality of food? That’s now what you’re there for. With a shift of priorities, these objections vanish.
  4. I’m uncomfortable meeting new people, especially in a new place.
    It can help to realize you only have to meet a couple of people at a time. And remember –you’re new to them, too. You’re all in the same boat here. Focus on putting THEM at ease, and your discomfort evaporates.
  5. I’m afraid they’ll reject me.
    This may really be a fear of not knowing what to do if you ARE rejected. So it’s really a fear of being unprepared. The answer is to create a line to use if somebody is unresponsive, and practice it. For instance, “I see I’ve caught you at a bad time. Hope you enjoy the event.” Then move on. No big deal.

With a shift in perspective and a few new strategies, you may find business networking will be much more productive for you. Try these tips and let us know how it goes. What tips do you have to share?

And if you want outside help in overcoming your blocks to attending networking events,
contact me and together we’ll eliminate those barriers for you.

The Transformation Conversation: How To Relax Your Speaking Fears

Wednesday, November 4th, 2009

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One sure way to reduce your speaking fears is to shift your focus. Set aside those questions that drive your discomfort. You know the ones:

  • Can I really do this?
  • Will they like me?
  • What if I don’t say this right?

Instead, shift your focus to the transformation your service or product will create for your audience. This works whether you’re talking with one person, a whole room full of folks, or hundreds of people on a teleseminar.

How It Works

Start by visualizing just one person (preferably your ideal client). Now picture them totally transformed by what you offer. Really get into imagining all the ways their life can be changed by your service or product. YOU know what that looks like and feels like. You’ve seen it with other people — right? Can you feel that excitement? I’m grinning just writing about it!

Now bring that energy and vision to your conversation and your anxiety is just pushed aside. When you’re fired up with that enthusiasm from knowing the possibilities, it’s contagious. Your listeners could care less whether you “say it right” or not. They’re caught up in your vision for them of what can be created with your service or product.

And underneath your enthusiasm, you’re relaxed because now the conversation has nothing to do with your fears and your worries. You could actually have fun! AND you’ll be doing a better job of getting your best message across.

Bonus Tip

Do a dry run first. Take some time to practice this on your own by following these steps:

  1. Define your ideal client. Write out a complete description of a person who fits your definition of who you’re the best match for.
  2. Make a list of every benefit your offer can create for your ideal client.
  3. Go even further, asking what’s the benefit resulting from each of those benefits.
  4. Now picture that ideal client experiencing those benefits.

Try this with your own business speaking and leave a comment below — Let us know how this works for you.