Archive for January, 2010

Dust Off Your Enthusiasm

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

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Do you cringe when you hear an infomercial guy yelling with rollercoaster inflections in his voice? I know I do. He’s trying so hard to sound enthusiastic, but he just sounds annoying. All that hype-y up and down in his voice comes across as totally phony, doesn’t it?

Enthusiasm Is Not Cool

That 3 AM salesman is contributing to the bad rap given to expressing enthusiasm. Plus, it’s not really cool to sound excited about things. In fact, there’s a current trend in everyday talking (especially for younger women) to speak in a fast kind of monotone.

Regardless of your age or gender, if you’re speaking to clients without enthusiasm, you’re working against yourself in your business. And I know you don’t want to do that. If you don’t sound excited about what you’re doing, how do you expect them to get excited?

You Don’t Have To Fake It

Expressing your excitement about what you’re teaching or offering needs to be genuine. People want to listen to real people speaking in an authentic way. That honesty helps create the relationship essential to doing business with someone. So don’t fake it. That won’t help you either.

You want to activate your own energy and passion when you’re speaking. The word “enthusiasm” comes from the Greek “en theos” meaning “the god within.” So it’s your highest self, your spirit that generates your own deep enthusiasm about what you do. It’s always there in you – not something you need to manufacture or bring in from an outside source. It just hides from you sometimes.

So Fire It Up

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I know – some days it’s easier than others to ignite your zeal (don’t you love that word?) for what you do. Here are some tips to help with that:

  • Take the time to write down why you’re passionate about what you do and what your vision is for your business. Pull this out and read it to refresh your memory.
  • Keep track of your wins in a journal so you can use them as fuel. Include testimonials, sales you’ve made, new subscribers, new clients – you get the idea. Again, keep this wins journal handy to look at when you want a boost.
  • If nobody’s around, read these things out loud to your imaginary buddy, saying, “listen to this!”
  • Jump up and down. Punch the air. Get your body into the act!
  • Think of something else that gets you really excited and raise your overall level of spirits.
  • Give yourself an old-school pep talk like you’re your own athletic coach.
  • When you’re on the phone, stand up and move around.

People really love enthusiasm, whether it’s trendy or not. It just feels good to be around somebody who’s excited and happy, doesn’t it? And people listen much more deeply to an enthusiastic speaker. They retain more of what they’ve heard because they felt good while they were hearing it. This is a great rapport builder, and raises the know-like-and-trust factor in your listener. So speaking with energy and excitement is a great marketing tool.

Dust off your own enthusiasm when you’re speaking in any business situation. And if you want some outside assitance, I’m here to help you with that. Just contact me.

What are thoughts? What tips do you have? Leave a comment and let us know!

Speaking Fears: Safe Way To Stay Small

Tuesday, January 26th, 2010

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If you have a fear of speaking up, you’re not alone. Studies show that 85% of people are more afraid of public speaking than they are of death. Wow! That’s a big fear. So you’re a pretty typical person if the thought of speaking makes you anxious.

However, the consequences for you if you’re not speaking up are NOT typical. You’re a business owner. You need to be heard. You need to get the word out calmly and clearly about what you do.

Staying Small

hidingA decision to resign yourself to speaking fears is a choice to stay small in your business. It’s that simple. And it’s socially acceptable to have performance anxiety, so it can be an easy way to hide. I know because I’ve done it myself. Yes – it’s embarassing, but true.

While coaching other people to speak up so they could expand their businesses, I found lots of reasons to avoid doing some things because of my own fears. On the surface, they looked like performance fears. But digging a little deeper, I uncovered the truth.

My real fear was about what could happen if I expanded my business. As long as I didn’t address the speaking fears, I didn’t have to know that, did I? It was a safe way to stay small.

What Are You Missing Out On?

Are you doing the same thing? If you’ve decided this fear is locked in your DNA so you’re not going to address your anxieties about speaking, here are some of the business opportunities you’re passing up:

  • doing group coaching
  • creating videos
  • creating audios
  • making radio appearances
  • doing teleseminars
  • presenting from the stage
  • giving free and paid talks
  • effectively networking
  • being taken seriously by other professionals
  • speaking calmly to those with more authority or visibility

Take A Closer Look

Do yourself a favor and take a peek behind that fear of speaking. Is it just a reason you’re giving yourself to avoid a bigger fear? Maybe some version of a fear of success? Of being overwhelmed with too much work? Of not being able to maintain a high level of production? Something else?

It’s not always pretty, but the truth really will set you free. Now you have a solid, specific place to start from. There are solutions to all these concerns.

Sometimes, just dealing with your core fear will make your speaking discomfort disappear! It was just an illusion after all – a camouflage for something else. And sometimes you need some outside help with those speaking fears so you can jump on all those business opportunities. If I can help you with that, contact me and let me know.

Public Speaking Myth: Nerves Create Sparkle

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

A few clients have been reluctant to release the last bit of their stage fright. They’re concerned that it will make their performance flat if they get rid of their fear.

I’m going to tell you the same thing I tell them: That’s a myth.

Here’s a short video on the topic. Let us know what you think!