Archive for September, 2009

Do You Overload Your Listeners?

Wednesday, September 23rd, 2009

TMI

Speaking with passion is a great thing – whether talking with a prospective client, or giving a presentation. Letting your passion shine through to people is important, for sure. Maybe even critical.

Enthusiasm ignites from that passion, and makes you sparkle. People love that! Enthusiasm is contagious, so they get to fire up some good feelings of their own. Now you’ve got some ideal basic ingredients for a productive business communication.

Here’s The Tricky Part

You need to let the enthusiasm flow, but restrain your information. What does that mean? It means pull the reins in on how much you have to say. If you don’t, you risk losing the attention of your audience.

You’ve been on the receiving end of TMI, haven’t you? You’re interested in the line of products and the guy tries to quickly tell you about all 15 items they carry. By the time he’s done, YOU’RE out of breath just trying to keep up with the information!

As for workshops, I attended one where the presenter obviously really knew her stuff. But in her gusto to fully educate us, she tried to jam about 8 hours of education into 2 hours. I came away confused and disappointed because I couldn’t take notes fast enough to keep up. And I didn’t fully understand any of it.

What’s Going On Here

When you deliver too much information, the results are that:

  • There’s not enough time for each piece of knowledge to settle in.
  • The listener has no time to close one topic file in his brain before you open another one.
  • There’s no time for questions to formulate.
  • Your listener feels overwhelmed and confused.
  • You don’t accomplish your mission – either to educate or to sell.

Better Alternatives

Here are some things you try instead to get the results you want.

  • Slow down.
  • Before you start, make it clear there’s more to share. Schedule a second conversation or a multi-part workshop right from the beginning.
  • Only cover the main points and eliminate all the detail…. OR
  • Pick 2-3 main points and go deep with them, filling in the details.

You’ll feel more relaxed without feeling driven to cover everything in a limited time. Your audience will relax as well, more receptive to hear what you have to say.

Does Your Elevator Speech Take You To The Penthouse?

Sunday, September 20th, 2009

elevator speech

You know the drill. You’re supposed to follow your mentor’s formula for writing your “elevator speech” or 30-second intro. And then deliver it with enthusiasm to everyone who will stop long enough to listen. Right?

OK. You’re following instructions. You’ve rewritten the thing at least 17 times. You’ve rehearsed it until you’re blue in the face. Then why do people’s eyes still glaze over?

Try Something Different

It’s possible that what you really need is a new approach – not a new speech. Here are some ideas:

  • Focus on how you can serve the people you talk with. Maybe that has nothing to do with your business right now. Maybe it’s about referring them to your electrician.
  • Pretend you’re the host of the event – like it’s your party. Introduce people to each other. Greet loners standing by themselves.
  • Introduce yourself with just your name. Then ask the other person about themselves. Instead of asking, “What do you do?” mix it up a little bit. How about, “What do you like BEST about what you do?” Get a real conversation going.

What About My Elevator Speech?

Your turn will come – don’t worry. It happens organically in a conversation. No need to pounce! Your rehearsals will pay off because you’re totally familiar with expressing what you offer. Use the elements of your speech in a natural way inside your conversation. Now it’s not a speech – it’s part of building a relationship.

Relaxing Into It

You may think the problem is that your words aren’t perfect. But that’s not it. Researchers have found that your words count for only 7% of the overall message you send when you talk with somebody. Only 7%! The majority (55%) of your message is transmitted by facial expression and body language; and 38% comes from your voice quality.

So it’s not your words that really connect you to people. It’s how they feel interacting with you. Are you tense? Desperate for business? People sense that and feel distant and distrusting. You really need to find a way to relax and enjoy yourself. Take the focus and the pressure off yourself and you’ll be surprised at the new connections you’ll make.